Story Time

A Wedding Before My Wedding (My Pre-Wedding Experience)

Every girl dreams of this day. It’s the day that they prepare for since their pigtail days. It’s the day that’s perfectly planned out from the tune of the bells to the clear silk of the dress. Every bead, every rosebud and every silver wear perfectly aligned in their rightful place. I can only be talking about one thing. Oh yes. There’s nothing alike. Her W-E-D-D-I-N-G day! In my case it my Pre-Wedding and to explain it briefly; It was basically a wedding without the legal part of it. It was for my family and friends in South Africa before I immigrate to the Netherlands. Obviously because we want our union to be recognized in the Netherlands we had to wait till I was abroad before we could take the steps to tie the knot for the real. It’s on the 22nd of August in the court. Afterwards we’re going to enjoy a lovely meal at a pizza restaurant that serves gluten free food. Something I wanted in the first place.

My time arrived quite early in my life in a time where my adult mind could make decisions that my child self would never come to. One of these decisions is that no, I don’t want the fancy dress, all the flowers, the big event and food that no one really enjoys. What I do want is to spend the rest of my life on this earth with the man I love. I don’t need an over top ceremony to make this possible. Unfortunately I’m a great person and listen to the wishes of my parents. One of those wishes was an over top ceremony that I managed to compromise to something smaller but the bells, rosebuds and silky white dress I couldn’t escape. The idea that I, a woman that loves wearing princess dresses doesn’t want a wedding was something no one could wrap their mind around.

I wish I can say everything went smoothly and I enjoyed every last second of the entire process, but I had frustrations left and right. The first thing that comes to mind was the venue. I’ve never dealt with a business that I loathed more. The memory of the horrors they pushed me through is enough to make me clench my teeth. Then came choosing the dress, it would come to no surprise that I had no cooking clue what I wanted as the entire wedding ceremony was all a smokey haze. I was lucky enough to have a father willing to buy my wedding dress but unlucky enough that his wife is a controlling woman that felt like it was her right to choose my dress. As I only had three months to put the entire thing together, a lot of things I would’ve enjoyed to have on the day wasn’t possible, but let’s move away from the long list negatives.

The positive thing was that I saw most of my cared for family and friends. I made lovely memories.  My uncle’s ceremony. Onno’s vows. My parents speeches. My grandma’s speech. My first dance. My dances with my parents. Oh and I got some great pictures out of the thing so there is that too. But honestly, I encourage you to take control of the situation and celebrate your marriage to the person you love more than anything as YOU TWO wish it to be. Don’t compromise. Don’t let anyone ruin or change this special moment. Don’t please them, please the two of you. Your happiness is important.

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What To Expect When Getting A Kitten

We can all come to an agreement that kittens are the reason why the sun comes up every morning. Kittens are wonderful little ball of furs and if your thinking about getting one then please do. There is a few things you should know but finer details. I’m just kidding. Here is my finer details.

Speculoos (Speculoos is a ginger spread here in the Netherlands. It’s like gingerbread and fudge had a lovechild. Its heaven) has been a part of our family for nearly two months now and although I’ve enjoyed every last second of it. You also need to know of the ugly that happens behind the scenes.

  1. Cat Claws

Any cat and I mean any cat will scratch. It’s a thing. It’s not going anywhere so if you want a cat just know claw marks is your new best friend.

  1. Bite The Human

Oh and they love to bite. They’re teeth is razor sharp so sign yourself up for some bite marks. Don’t worry, the scratch marks will always be the winner.

  1. Litter Box What?

This one is probably my least favorite one. When they’re in a new surrounding they don’t usually know straight of the bat where they’re litter box is. Read: Pee and poop everywhere.

  1. Cat Hair Everywhere

This one like with any animal you keep inside the house is to be expected really. Cat hair will get everywhere but simply groom your fur baby with a brush every day. I just bought a baby hair brush. It really doesn’t need to be fancy. Your cat will groom itself on the most part. Just get those loose hairs that causes those hairballs.

Trick: To remove cat hair from furniture and clothes take normal tape, wrapped it around your hand sticky side up and just dab dab dab. Your kitten will see this as a fun game and help.

  1. Sleepless Nights

Cats are night creatures. Get used to this idea because I can promise you now your little fur baby won’t see your foot hanging out from the side of your bed as a sign to leave you alone your sleeping but instead of something to chew on. I’m saying this as Speculoos is biting my toe.

  1. Whiny Husband Because He Isn’t Getting Enough Attention Anymore
  2. People Don’t Come To Visit You. It’s All For The Kitten

Honestly it’s amazing and I love my boy so much. It melts my heart when he starts to purr when I pet him and never leaves my side. He even grooms me at every chance he gets. He sleeps in my neck and licks my ears. He is my sweetheart. If you want a bucket load of cat pictures of my fur baby head on over to his Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/speculoos_the_cat/?hl=en

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Story Time

Day 1 As A Blogger

A blogger; someone that writes articles about a wide range of subjects and share them on the internet. I’m completely new to the blogger world. My experience limited to blog posts that manage to pop up on my Facebook newsfeed, but I’m definitely intrigued. I love sharing my experiences, tips and not to mention writing has been a part of my life since the tender age of 13. What started with cliché werewolf novels on Wattpad has evolved into my blogs. I can finally write about stuff I actually know one or two things about! No more stumbling around in the fantasy realm.

My name is Cassandra and I’m just another girl on the internet that probably shares too much with strangers and really should take a crash course on TMI. I have a steady relationship with my couch and potatoes is a staple in my life. I also have a growing passion for fitness and health (and everything gluten free).

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I’m so excited to be launching my website today and I really hope you will reap the benefits from my mistakes but overall I hope you will enjoy what I have to offer. I hope you will come to see me as a friend and someone who will always try her utmost best to help YOU become the best version of yourself (which is the state you are truly happy). My dream is to inspire, motivate and fill your head with some great ideas. I don’t know where I’m going with this introduction. I don’t want you to think every blog is going to be super stiff with big English words and all that jazz. That’s not me. I’m sarcastic as hell and I’ve said this before but I will say it again. My spirit animal is an unicorn. Yes, that’s the level of special I am.

I hope you will stick around if not that’s okay. Not everyone is going to like me or what I believe and do with my life. It’s really fine. We all have our differences and own opinions. We are all our own special blend of cookie.

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The artist behind my logo, the image  my brand is Kayla Tait. You can find her here: https://www.instagram.com/_taitanator_/?hl=en