General Life Tips, Story Time

What To Expect When Getting A Kitten

We can all come to an agreement that kittens are the reason why the sun comes up every morning. Kittens are wonderful little ball of furs and if your thinking about getting one then please do. There is a few things you should know but finer details. I’m just kidding. Here is my finer details.

Speculoos (Speculoos is a ginger spread here in the Netherlands. It’s like gingerbread and fudge had a lovechild. Its heaven) has been a part of our family for nearly two months now and although I’ve enjoyed every last second of it. You also need to know of the ugly that happens behind the scenes.

  1. Cat Claws

Any cat and I mean any cat will scratch. It’s a thing. It’s not going anywhere so if you want a cat just know claw marks is your new best friend.

  1. Bite The Human

Oh and they love to bite. They’re teeth is razor sharp so sign yourself up for some bite marks. Don’t worry, the scratch marks will always be the winner.

  1. Litter Box What?

This one is probably my least favorite one. When they’re in a new surrounding they don’t usually know straight of the bat where they’re litter box is. Read: Pee and poop everywhere.

  1. Cat Hair Everywhere

This one like with any animal you keep inside the house is to be expected really. Cat hair will get everywhere but simply groom your fur baby with a brush every day. I just bought a baby hair brush. It really doesn’t need to be fancy. Your cat will groom itself on the most part. Just get those loose hairs that causes those hairballs.

Trick: To remove cat hair from furniture and clothes take normal tape, wrapped it around your hand sticky side up and just dab dab dab. Your kitten will see this as a fun game and help.

  1. Sleepless Nights

Cats are night creatures. Get used to this idea because I can promise you now your little fur baby won’t see your foot hanging out from the side of your bed as a sign to leave you alone your sleeping but instead of something to chew on. I’m saying this as Speculoos is biting my toe.

  1. Whiny Husband Because He Isn’t Getting Enough Attention Anymore
  2. People Don’t Come To Visit You. It’s All For The Kitten

Honestly it’s amazing and I love my boy so much. It melts my heart when he starts to purr when I pet him and never leaves my side. He even grooms me at every chance he gets. He sleeps in my neck and licks my ears. He is my sweetheart. If you want a bucket load of cat pictures of my fur baby head on over to his Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/speculoos_the_cat/?hl=en

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General Life Tips

Think Before You Ink: Tattoo Advice

(1) A tattoo is a form of body modification where a design is made by inserting ink, dyes and pigments, either indelible or temporary, into the dermis layer of the skin to change the pigment. Tattoos fall into three broad categories: purely decorative (with no specific meaning); symbolic (with a specific meaning pertinent to the wearer); pictorial (a depiction of a specific person or item).* That’s as technical as I’m going to get with the subject.

If your thinking of getting your first tattoo there is a few things I want you to do, but first let me tell you where I’m coming from with this wisdom. I was 17 when I got my first tattoo, a tramp stamp, a term I learned after I got the butterfly permanently inked on my body. I went to the first tattoo shop I could find, paged through the book for not even ten minutes, put two designs together and that was it. The next minute I was hunching over experiencing the pain of over a thousand needle pricks. I’ve had this tattoo for nearly five years now and I don’t regret it…completely. What I do regret is not spending more time on the design and choosing the right artist for me. I still love the piece because of what it stands for. Plus it’s on my back so it’s not like I see it every day.

My second, third and fourth tattoo was just as impulsive as the first one. They were done by a tattoo artist that really shouldn’t tattoo people. They’re doing more harm than good. I have one botched up tattoo to prove it. Pro tip: It hurts more if the artist doesn’t know what they’re doing. When my fifth tattoo rolled around I’ve managed to learn from my mistakes. I spend two weeks thinking and rethinking my design, creating my own original and custom piece. I then did my research and found the right tattoo artist for the job. Ribs are a tricky place. The result is a tattoo that I love and cherish not only because of the meaning behind it but how great it looks! The trend so far has continued with my latest tattoos.

If you haven’t been able to conclude what I’ve been trying to teach you during my little recap of tattoo fails I will bullet point it for you down below.

  • Tweak and re-tweak your design
  • Do your research: tattoo artist and shop

Also as a side note, you have to be prepared of what people might say and do. As annoying as this next sentence will sound; strangers, acquaintances, friends, family, co-workers, your pet…might have their own two cents to say about your tattoo. It’s frustrating and none of their business but unfortunately even though the times has changed – not everyone agrees with the art of tattoo. AND it’s completely okay. Everyone is different. That’s the great thing about mankind. We are all our own unique blend of cookie dough.

Source(s):

(1) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tattoo

Get inked or die naked…

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General Life Tips

So You Want To Au Pair Abroad? This Is What You Need To Know…

Leaving home isn’t always easy. So going abroad for a set amount of time and taking on the big responsibility of being an Au pair isn’t for everyone. BUT it’s an experience like no other and something I’m so happy and grateful for being able to have done. It’s life changing and eye opening. If it’s something you’re interested in then don’t let fear stop you. I was an Au pair in the Netherlands for one year with two kids. I can honestly say that it has changed me as person like no other experience could’ve.

  1. Kiddie Love

This probably sounds funny and obvious but I really can’t express it enough. You really need to love children and I mean all the different parts of it. The good and the bad. Children aren’t always easy. They’re going to test your limits and really see just how patient you can be. There will be days when you honestly don’t want to deal with the same nonsense and there will be days you love your host kids so much that the idea of leaving them physically hurts.

  1. Country Love

If you’re going to au pair in another country it really needs to be a country YOU are interested in. It’s going to be your new home for a year so it really needs to be a place you feel like you can fit in, experience new things and really embrace and learn from the culture.

  1. Host Parents

Please take your time with choosing a host family/parents. Don’t just choose a family because they chose you and your scared you won’t find a family. No. Kick this idea right out of your head. These people are not only going to be your family and basically the baseline in this strange and new country but they’re also going to be your boss. You have to have similar views and interest or it won’t always be a breeze in the park.

  1. Au Pair Friends

Having Au pair friends is really a blessing in disguise. They’re experiencing the exact same thing than you are: the frustrations that can come with looking after kids, the home sickness, the struggles with the new culture and language and overall they’re your support in this new environment. They’re your comedian relief. They’re someone to have fun, unwind and most importantly to grow with.

  1. Wise Company Choices

Choose your company wisely. They’re going to effect the entire experience in ways you won’t imagine. You can get absolutely wonderful companies that truly carries your best interest to heart, but then you get horror companies that basically…to put it nicely screw you over. Do your research on the company, specially Google their names with words like scandal, horrible company etc. If someone didn’t have a great experience with them it will be somewhere on the internet. Go to their Facebook page, try to contact other au pairs that went through them and not just that, go with your instinct. If you feel good about the company then that’s all you need to know. I recommend House-o-Orange for my South African Au Pairs: https://www.house-o-orange.nl/

Take the leap and Au pair. At least once.

child-594519PS: It’s not always going to be fun and games but again, it’s a great experience. You really ‘grow up’ while you Au pair. If you’re interested, go for it!

 

General Life Tips

How To Make A Long Distance Relationship Work

Relationships aren’t always easy. Its filled with great memories and pointless arguments. The other day my husband and I was arguing if the pasta in the container was gluten free or not. We went into great detail with references and we still couldn’t come to a conclusion. Onno still stands by the fact that it was gluten free pasta. He’s dead wrong in case you were wondering. We’ve been together for two years now and more than half of that time we spend apart with 10 000km between us. We weren’t even in the same country. Onno is born and bred in the Netherlands and I came out of a little hole in South Africa. After my VISA came to an end and I had no other choice but to go back home. There I  stayed for a year. Long distance relationships are ten times harder and you need to work double as hard. Doubts that you would never have in a normal relationship starts to pop up. Trust will go a long way.

  1. Stay in touch

This one probably sounds silly but you really need to stay in touch. Every morning send that lovely good morning message, update them throughout your day and then obviously never go to bed without a goodnight message. Include them in your day, tell them about the cat you saw or that weird person you saw on the train. You really need to put in the effort every day even if you both work 8 hours per day and nothing exciting happened..

     2.  Video call as much as possible

Really make it a habit to video call as much as possible. Seeing you loved one’s face can really make all the worlds of differences.

  1. Go on Dates

This probably sounds absolutely ridiculous considering I just mentioned there was 10 000km between us but hear me out. Oh the power of technology. We watched movies together which means we basically watch the exact same movie while Skype is on. We mute it and when we want to say something about the movie we signal the other one to pause. We did this at least twenty times. We also played games together (not as much though) which is basically the same concept as the movie date. You play the game and see who has the better score and etc. If I went to the beach with my family I would record a video. There was a lot of videos in general.

  1. Stay patient and talk about your feelings

As in any relationship you need to stay patient and open. Understand that there will be frustrations and the struggle will be real sometimes. Be completely open with your partner. Tell them when you’re having a bad day because you miss them more than anything in this world.

  1. Have that end goal

Having a date on when you will see each other again will make a massive difference. It’s something to look forward to and something that will make the distance feel a tiny bit smaller. Make it fun, plan what you’re going to do when you see each other again (after the welcome back cuddles obviously) and get that countdown going. The longest countdown we had in between seeing each other was 6 months.

It’s difficult but not impossible. If your love is true than it will work.

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General Life Tips

I’m 21 And I Have A Bucket List

When you think about someone with a bucket list, my best bet is that a healthy twenty one year old women doesn’t come to mind. It’s for the sick and dying. It’s for the dreamers. It’s for the paranoid humans that believe the world is ending. I don’t know…it’s a bunch of bullshit if you ask me. Why wait till it’s too late to start living your life? So I bought a book and started to write.

What do I want in life?

What memories do I want to make?

Some was quite plausible and expected: get married, buy a house, get my degree, move abroad, have children and etc. Now there is also a few things on the list that’s a bit crazy but something I will do mark my words.

Here is a few of my favorite Randoms:

Get a trust tattoo (I’m really okay with this one. My husband will choose the design and I’m really looking forward to it.)

Swim in the sea at midnight (Fun fact: I’m terrified of swimming in the sea. I get full blown panic attacks when in neck depth water in broad daylight. Yeah. Fun.)

Set of fireworks (Last time I was close to fireworks things went bad so this should be interesting)

Learn how to ballet dance (I’m not expecting miracles. I’m going to count a five year old routine as a success.)

Hold a spider for five minutes (Oh hell to the no. Sorry that was reflex.)

I firmly believe that you can’t live your life without ever stepping outside your comfort zone. I strive to challenge myself in every aspect of my life without going to stupid and dangerous means. So I made a list and every time something silly I want to do just for the sake that I’m alive and healthy and can do it I add it to my list. Every now and again I open my little book and see what I want to do. Life is short. I would hate to die without ever have lived.

So yeah, make that list and get out there and live.

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